I have found that you can learn quite a bit about a person by how they express themselves in words and actions (or inaction). As Mark Twain has said, “A man’s character may be learned from the adjectives which he habitually uses in conversation.” The key word is “habitually”. A person who uses negative adjectives habitually that is without pause or cause, I have found to be pessimistic and cynical, whose actions are unnecessary at best and obstructive at worst. In my experiences I have also found that people who are upbeat and use positive adjectives are optimistic, kind, and helpful.
There is a great lesson in observing these behaviors. I have learned to become more aware of how I express myself. I pay attention to my thoughts, my language, and how I behave. In those occasions when I have used off-putting words or made critical comments (more often to myself than to others), I have noticed that my whole disposition echoes my language. That is when I make a concerted effort to backtrack and take it back. I make an effort to remedy the situation and revert to my usual upbeat nature.
I feel my best when I routinely use encouraging and supportive words in my conversations to others (and to myself…especially to myself). How are you expressing yourself? What adjectives do you normally use in your conversations with others and with yourself? How you usually express yourself does have a significant role in shaping who you are.
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