How to state your position graciously.


The word “against” is generally followed by an issue in which we are opposed. The energy behind that word is negative, as it anticipates problem or difficulty. Try it out for yourself: I am against that; I am opposed to that; I am in dispute with that. Do you see a conflict waiting to happen? It stirs people into a position or attitude of defense.

You attract and catch more flies with honey than vinegar. In other words, let us find a positive and gracious way to state our position. Let us take that issue we are against, and turn the phrase into something we support. In his book, Everyday Wisdom, Dr. Wayne Dyer stated, “Everything you’re against can be restated in a way that puts you in support of something. Instead of being against war, be for peace. Instead of being against poverty, be for prosperity. Instead of joining a war on drugs, be for purity in our youth.” Supporting a cause is more pro-active and is more likely to bring about the changes we seek in a positive manner.

For example, I am against bullying, teasing, and antagonism; but, moreover, I am for camaraderie, fellowship, and kindness. It is much more dignified to stand for fellowship and kindness, which in turn will bring about the same objective as being against bullying. Any form of negativity is essentially eliminated when we support and bring about more fellowship and kindness. And, I am going to gain more appreciation and respect with my positive stance for fellowship and kindness. It seems to me to be counter-intuitive to address bullying by directly being opposed to it, which blames and points fingers at people, institutes, and policies. When you oppose something, you are going to garnish negative attitudes. You don’t combat bullying by being a bully. Right? What do you support?

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